Living My New Reality
The desire to have a quality, possession, or other desirable attributes belonging to someone else.For a Narcissist it's the emotion they operate from...a pathological state of envy.The pathology of envy with a Narcissist makes them unable to stop the cycles of abuse...till they destroy the target emotionally because they are envious of them.The target is forced to go full no
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I'm going to be nicer...that will fix it.Did you ever feel and think this....You are kind and nice and sweet and loving and you still feel you are not doing enough...This is the feeling that THEY have made you feel...this is intentional because it is to their benefit.When you feel you are not doing enough...you will do more.***Doing more does
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Just like everyone else...I too wanted the quick and easy way to recover from narcissistic abuse...to end the painful mental turmoil.There isn't one...it takes as long as it takes.There is no linear path to healing from narcissistic trauma...each person's path is unique depending on their core wounds, the emotional damage caused and the length of time involved with such a
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That is probably the hardest and also the most brave and courageous thing you will ever have to do for yourself.Emotionally manipulative people do not give closure.Situations with them never end well...and that's the intention.There is a very dysfunctional and disturbing intention behind that maneuver.First...they are cowards so they literally run away...and second and more importantly when there is no
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By definition...The state or quality of being loyal... faithfulness to commitments or obligations.How many of us hang on to loyalty because of time invested...We live our entire life in the service of others...we did what we were taught to do.We did that out of loyalty or habit or patterns...but more often than not to our own detriment.Comfort...is what keeps us
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By definition...Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which one person makes another person doubt his or her perceptions, experiences, memories, or understanding of events that happened.Pay attention to people who have to convince you of their character...I'm a good guy...You can trust me...I would never cheat on you...You can feel safe with me...People don't have to tell, upsell
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I got married at 25 and left Kuwait to live in Egypt.How exciting!I used to joke saying that I had done 25 to Life in Kuwait.Kuwait like many other Muslim countries is male dominant and very oppressive...like being in prison. When you live there you don't know different...it feels like home...it feels 'normal'.Egypt was going to be a breath of
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When I was in Mexico a few weeks ago a 22 year old resort employee asked if she could join me for lunch.The employees at these resorts like to practice English with the foreigners.She had a good command over English so we had a very interesting conversation.She shared her short life story with me and I shared some of mine...the
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My childhood friend Mahrukh Sutaria messaged me a few years ago and reminded me of a time when we were maybe in the 7th grade when she was seated next to me in class on our first day in a new grade. She said she was very nervous and anxious...she told me that I made her laugh and made her
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I had built my life on rubber bands and popsicle sticks...that resulted with me engaging with someone emotionally abusive...and stayed way past it's expiration date.A narcissist is sent into our life to shake up our wobbly foundation...they are just a catalyst for change...they will huff, puff and bluff till they blow your foundation down.I needed to stop living in an
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