Living My New Reality
All behaviors are learned...Good or bad...They become inherent over time...We are all born with an innate foundation called temperament.Where you operate from is determined by your temperament...which also shows over time.They become your pattern. Your pattern, purpose, intent, and core beliefs determines why you do what you do.The good the bad and the ugly is in all of us...What we
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Unfortunately...I have had to remind several males that they have daughters and granddaughters that could possibly meet a man just like them who will be crude, disrespectful, sexually demeaning and abusive towards them.I don't think they were concerned about any of that...they were mostly concerned about how great being a bully made them feel at that moment...many moments.Karma sometimes skips
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Without my permission...Our nervous system does not want resolution...it wants repetition. We want familiar...we crave familiar. THAT is the reason we stay in uncomfortable situations because of 'comfortability'...ironically. **Our own patterns make us complicit in our own suffering(Carl Jung)**We can only break a pattern by replacing it with another.Easier said than done...for the same reason...it's easier to stay in what
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Before the ruffles...Sometimes I think AI is just being cruel reminding us of what we looked like 10,20,30 years ago...and sometimes I feel AI is reminding us we are the same soul...just a little more more:PasteurizedHomogenizedStabilizedEqualizedResizedPrioritized and a lot more.Would I love to repeat my youth...sure...but ONLY on one condition.If it came with ALL the lessons without the repetition...otherwise NO...I
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Mind your Ps and Qs...YOU were never the problem...YOU were the exposure...THAT made YOU the villain in someone else's story...Emotional abusers thrive in chaos and confusion...and they drag you into their Hell...and then are offended when you call them out.You know what you did do?All eyes on the abuser and their repetitive behaviors...You know what else you did do?The abuser
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The Golden Years...Can you even imagine...Theoretically and optimistically we may have @20 years left...give or take.And most of those years in God knows what kinda condition. Can you even imagine...The Golden years have arrived!What do I think I should have done more of.1. Fuck around more...literally. 2. Eat more kanafe and karela.3. Learn ballet (my childhood desire)4. Finish learning the
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What are the 5 love languages?Acts of serviceReceiving giftsQuality timeWords of affirmationPhysical touchWe love in the same way we want to be loved.The hard part of a relationship...getting a partner to love you in the way you need to be loved.Knowing your own love language and the love language of your partner and having a partner who is capable of
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Know thyself...Narcissists are drawn to you for your good qualities...but like 'healthy' partners would... they do not value and nurture those qualities in you.They try to destroy it because they don't have it...they covet it...they are jealous of it.A jealous partner or friend is a dangerous person. We expect our partners to have our best interest at heart...because WE do.Not
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Your smile is YOURS...I remember telling the Psychopath...you took away my smile!He gleefully smiled and shrugged his shoulders which was his own pat on the back for his cruelty. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED.Next...time...next week...next person. A shoulder shrug is a nonverbal gesture where one is indicating indifference "I don't care".These are emotional vampires...they suck the life out of people...and then dismiss your
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Graveyard...shift.Staying longer that I should have.I knew in the first month something was very wrong. We had broken up for the 5th 6th or 7th or 8th times in 2.5 years. Usually survivors do 7 cycles of abuse with a narcissist...Overachiever here...Love bombing, devaluation, discard...rinse repeat.I did 8...almost 9.9 was my lucky number.He tried #9 after he tried to get
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