Know thyself…
Narcissists are drawn to you for your good qualities…but like ‘healthy’ partners would… they do not value and nurture those qualities in you.
They try to destroy it because they don’t have it…they covet it…they are jealous of it.
A jealous partner or friend is a dangerous person.
We expect our partners to have our best interest at heart…because WE do.
Not with a narcissist!
For example…
They might be originally attracted to you because you are intelligent or interesting or kind or loving and they will tell you all that to hook you in and impress YOU.
Then they will start throwing in random comments…you are boring…you are needy…you are clingy…my friends are saying…etc etc etc.
They take hold of what they recognize as your ‘good’ quality and try to destroy it or make YOU doubt yourself.
THIS is the reason how very successful independent women can get trapped with a psychological abuser.
Psychological abuse is not LOUD…it is covert and underhanded.
The Psychopath I experienced was trying to destroy EVERYTHING about me…first he proclaimed dating HIM was like winning lottery…big HOAX…then subsequently…I was boring, I had aged 10 years in one year, one of his exes was more interesting, his other married ex monopolized all his time, a third one was on a rotation schedule, blatant sexually demeaning comments, I was needy and don’t forget the endless merry-go-round of break-up to make-up game so he could date others to shake your sense of stability etc etc
You get the gist…
This is a text book pattern of abuse…
They ALL follow the same playbook…you know one you know ALL.
Slowly trying to erode your self-confidence.
Hurtful, harmful and disorienting…ABSOLUTELY 💯!
Capable of destroying ME…ABSOLUTELY 💯 NOT!
I had to sit down gather my senses and remember who I am and more importantly recognize what kinda fuckshit toxic garbage he was.
Psychological manipulators go for the jugular…your psyche…they try to destroy you from the inside out.
To survive THAT…you have to develop and maintain a very strong sense of self and set very strong unshakable boundaries with self-awareness and self-knowing.
Know thyself and no one can shake your foundation.
