Living My New Reality
Paradox....Is love what you feel inside yourself or do you ONLY feel love when someone else shows or tells you they love you...My point of view...Love is a verb...It's an action...You may not feel love solely by words...but you will feel completely loved when someone shows you love...Words have to match actions for best results.And here's the paradox...You can only
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A Valentine's Day nugget to protect your Beautiful Heart❤️People pick partners based on their needs at the time...Some people's needs are superficially based and some are not.So if your 'needs' are motivated by social standing, sex, money, housing, looks, cars, prestige or power you will pick a partner based on that superficial stuff.(Whether you are willing to admit it or
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Dear God...Please don't let me be alone🙏I think most of us have prayed this prayer at some point in our lives.One thing to pray for 'company'....quite another thing to think your prayers have been answered by the next person who shows up...without vetting their intentions out.Being afraid to be alone is the reason you form toxic bonds for the wrong
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Not your Monkey🐒When a man starts getting 'over familiar' after 1 or 2 days of texting or meeting up...or starts calling you 'my lady'...'my woman' etc or starts making other 'possessive' remarks...or future faking fancy trips to exotic places(yes they do that😅) or worse...pushing a sexual agenda on you prematurely 🤔😠Love you long time...ALREADY? 🙃😉😂1st...ALL THAT ⏫️are BIG RED FLAGS
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Proximity...Talk about being forced to start at square one...In the last decade...most EVERYONE 'familiar' in my life disappeared.Family, friends, husband...all gone.Some by their choice and some by mine...some by death.Some are barely 'alive'...perhaps just because I frequently resuscitation the relationships.But I also realized those were ALWAYS barely 'alive'...I just hadn't paid attention...because I believed we were in some form of
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NOW....Now is ALL we got...I learned that the hard way through osmosis from Robbie's life experience. He didn't want to celebrate birthdays, holidays or any days.I wrote a post about that...but that's the way that cookie crumbles. I've experienced many of those kind of people...but you already know that.As life lessons may have it...I learned to dodge bullets from the
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The power of ONE...is a real thing.My point of view...May not be yours and that's ok too.Do not underestimate the power of traveling alone.I've done it for the last 4 ish years except for a couple of instances. Not by choice...originally. Not for the faint of heart...either.Would I rather travel with a partner...sure.I have always been a brave person but
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Ruining holidays...business as usual....With the holidays around the corner...we ALL hope for a wonderful time of fun food family friends and festivities. We are here to make memorable memories...right?Not when you are dealing with a Narcissist...Narcissistic people ruin holidays or any special events to make it memorable...It's their favorite demoralizing gift to you for any event.Unfortunately...It's ALWAYS in hindsight when
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A Happy Accident...Toxic people will try to test you to see if you will validate them.They will treat you badly to see if you 'really' want to hang around with them...they use negative reinforcement to get a desired result.If you do validate their 'game' then it's off to the races...YOU have just agreed to and set up a precedence of
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All Inclusive trip to Hell and back....I remember so very clearly how I felt coming out of a 2.5 year Narcissistic relationship in July of 2017.It was an atrocious experience...It was so very painful...I was emotionally spinning out of control...did not know which way was up down back or front.I am usually a very grounded person...all 4 always on the
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