I love how you make me feel…
If you are looking to feel love reciprocated from a narcissist…they are not capable.
They are looking for validation from their conquests.
***They love how you make them feel***
And they will tell you that…in some way…but that’s that!
THAT is not a declaration of love…they are telling you that you are validating their needs.
If you are raised in codependent surroundings…THAT sounds wonderful to you!
You are making someone feel good about themselves.
But when you recognize what you are dealing with…and you will…you will see what they are actually saying.
They love what you do for them…but it will NEVER be reciprocated.
You decipher what they are saying to you as what you want it to be.
It’s not that!
YOUR reality is not theirs…
You are in this relationship by yourself and they are tending to their wounds.
They are ‘saying’ words you want to hear but what they are ‘doing’ is……….different.
Unfortunately…YOUR wounds may be the same as theirs…and that is why you get triggered.
They come and they dissappear…THAT triggers your abandonment wound
They date others(I’m on a break…excuse) continually…THAT provokes jealousy
If jealousy is provoked…your human tendency is to compete for their attention
They indulge in bad behaviors and if you mention it…you are needy and clingy…THAT triggers your sense of self…
So you will stop bringing up their bad behaviors because they will throw it back to you or now call you crazy
Rinse and repeat
Do you need more
My story is the same as yours
