Imagine that!!!
End of a long persistent journey for the narcissists in my life.
From my perspective…what I learned through this journey.
I wasn’t their first target…none of us are.
They were certainly not my first rodeo…but I’m pretty certain…this was a much needed experience for me to go through in order to stop allowing the same personality type into my life repetitively.
I started writing my blog because writing and voicing my truth felt healing to me…
My initial thought was perhaps if I could express my experience in words other potential targets would become aware and recognize the many red flags that show up when dealing with this text book disorder…and save themselves this agonizing bewildering struggle I had experienced.
Another of my grandiose hopes was that narcissists would think twice about targeting vulnerable people…because now EVERYONE can recognize the patterns and see them for what they are.
But that does not quite work in that way…
Most people (including myself) were oblivious to the signs and patterns of an emotional manipulator unless you have experienced a prototype and you study this type of abuse and become some sort of an ‘expert’ on a mental disorder…
Imagine that!
Not astronomy, not astrology, not an astronaut…but an ‘expert’ on a mental disorder.
I use the word ‘expert’ loosely and facetiously because of the time and dedication involved to understand what I experienced.
I learned just enough to unravel this painful ball of yarn and save myself.
I learned…even though you can see the good in people and attach to it…you cannot ignore their shadow side…and we ALL have both sides.
It’s the shadow side of people that can destroy relationships if left unregulated.
Imagine that!
And unfortunately…I also learned that narcissists are unable and unwilling to change their stripes and will continue to indulge in their mental disorder.
So if you are living in hope that mother father brother sister spouse lover friend neighbor president are suddenly going to see the light…
DON’T…it just ain’t NEVER gonna happen!
Their light switch broke when they were a child.
It takes a great deal of effort to make any kind of change in our life…and narcissists are not best known for their ‘effort’ or ‘change’…unless it benefits THEM.
Modern day narcissists frequent Abuse support forums…just like we do.
We use these forums to save our Souls…narcissists use them to perfect and sharpen their abuse techniques.
Different agendas for 2 very different outcomes.
Imagine that!
ALL narcissists will eventually bump into the wrong kinda target…
THAT’S just a factual statistical probability.
You lie, cheat or steal often enough…YOU are bound to eventually get caught.
Imagine that!
Both the target and the predator can’t hide behind a self-made delusional façade forever.
One is capable of change and the other is NOT!
Guess which one is which.
