Envy….
The desire to have a quality, possession, or other desirable attributes belonging to someone else.
For a Narcissist it’s the emotion they operate from…
A pathological state of envy.
The pathology of envy with a Narcissist makes them unable to stop the cycles of abuse…till they destroy the target emotionally because they are envious of them.
The target is forced to go full no contact with them to save themselves…or else the target will be used and abused on an as needed basis to destroy their self-confidence and self-respect.
For a ‘normal’ mind it is a strange concept to envy the person we love…because envy is a form of hate…and we as humans bond with others with love not hate.
Narcissists bond with people by creating hateful negative emotions…picking on their precious vulnerabilities, provoking jealousy, mindfuckery, gaslighting…creating bonds based on trauma instead of creating loving bonds.
I was told very randomly mid-sentence by the sadistic psychopath that I had aged 10 years in one year (after putting me through Hell)…when I asked him why would he say such a cruel thing…he shrugged his shoulders and laughed.
This is a very typical underhanded narcissistic envy projection.
THOSE were not the ONLY cruel words that came out of that mouth.
I’m lucky…I’m me…and not who he mistakenly underestimated me to be.
I’m also lucky I’ve had ample previous training from my caregiver…it just refreshed my memory…so I’m now fluent in the language of abuse.
Never underestimate the purpose and power of EVERYONE who passes through your life…good bad or ugly.
The longer you stay with a narcissist…the deeper the damaging trauma bond.
Narcissistic individuals cheer and celebrate the destruction of others that THEY have caused…it gives them a sense of accomplishment.
Narcissistic individuals prey on people much like parasites trying to fulfill that addiction to supply and attention…
Attention is not love…
Attention is not something you can build a relationship on…
The same goes with ANY relationships around you as well…not only relationships with narcissists.
Always remember…
People who love and support you will NEVER be envious of what and who you are.
They will build you up…not tear you down, dismiss you or ignore your achievements or cheer at your disappointments.
You can tell if people are envious of you by how they treat you…behave around you and what they say to you…and more importantly what they DO NOT say to you.
***You don’t know what you are dealing with until they show you who you are dealing with***
Envy and jealousy happens to the best of us…how destructively we handle it makes ALL the difference.
