Living My New Reality
If you have to Google people's dysfunctional behaviors for them to make sense...you better be prepared to unravel, dissect and do an autopsy of your WHOLE life of dysfunctional relationships, family, friends...with YOU being the STAR participant.Narcissism does not occur in a vacuum...it requires participants...YOU are that participant.Narcissism is a dysfunctional defense mechanism.Just like you may be an overly nice/nurturing/kind/over
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A Narcissist will make ALL your nightmares come true...Remember being scared of the boogie man under your bed...those were all your fears.The Narcissist in your future will bring ALL your fears to life...in full living color. They will make you live in your fears. Every day is a little more of a living hell.And you think you are stuck in
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How does one know how to deal and heal from emotional abuse.And no that wasn't included in the training manual.I gratefully learned...later...my situation was not much different from anyone else who has been through such an experience.I knew from first response...I was not going to get any support.Most people would have no concept of emotional abuse... myself included...until it happened
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An interaction with a narcissist is like an episode of 'Catfish'.NOTHING of what they show you is real...except the emotional abuse.THAT'S real!!!And that too they will deny.The longer you stay with them...the more you will deny the abuse yourself.You are confused between your reality and what they 'tell' you...that's called cognitive dissonance...two opposing 'realities'.That's the whole premise of their dysfunction...they
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People are home...not places...I was born in Kuwait...I lived 25 years of my life there...it was home!I knew nothing else.After the invasion in 1990...all hell broke lose...most families and friends were all dispelled from Kuwait for their own safety.I went back there in 1992...two months after the Liberation.No one was there...it didn't feel like home.My family had left...my childhood friends
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Wherever you go...there you are.Like everyone else's...my home is full of memories.Mostly good...and some not so good.When Robbie died...I spent a week getting rid of his clothes and his medical supplies and the last bits and pieces of his stuff in my home...the sooner I got rid of everything that reminded me of the last 6 months he spent struggling
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My friend who lives in Kuwait...and gratefully so just like EVERYONE else who lives there...during a conversation about life in Kuwait said to me 'at least they allow us to pray in church'. Hmmm...WOW!!! They 'allow' us to pray!!!That's some privilege!!!They take away ALL your freedoms and hand you bits and pieces of breadcrumbs...that makes you feel so grateful.I understand
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By definition....Flying monkeys is a phrase used in popular psychology to describe people who are acting on behalf of another to control a targeted individual.Usually a person of some power is be able to corral support...by money, charm, popularity, fake empathy, gas lighting...just pure bullshit.The unaware support are called flying monkeys.They are blinded by the light...just like you were...in the
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Red Flags...by definition.Something your partner does that indicates a lack of respect, integrity or interest towards the relationship.It's a sign that a person will turn out to be (or is) a problematic partner.I didn't know about red flags...Till at 51 I was 'happily sitting' with a person who wore a neon green hat full of red flags and I still
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EVERYONE has a dark side and a light side...we learn to balance them by our morals, principles, values, integrity etc. Emotionally unbalanced, deviant or toxic people also have light sides but don't have these checks and balances to fall back on...there is an imbalance...they easily get drawn to operate from their dark side...their boundaries are blurry.Initially everyone is drawn to
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