Living My New Reality
Staying attached to a Narcissist gets you wrapped up in their bad Karma that they themselves created and collected along the way.If you hang with a criminal you get to share in their criminal Karma...same difference.They completely overtake your mental energy early on in the situationship by introducing bullshit into your life...lots of it.If your mind is busy dealing with
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Jezebel was a Phoenician royal whose identity and name have come to signify a power-hungry, violent, and whorish woman.The Male Jezebel is a fictitious name for the same kind of spirit. He cunningly hides behind a warm visage of virtuousness but he will end up using and disposing of his prey with his intricate tools of charm and deception. Spirit
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No Contact with the Narcissists in your life is a permanent lifestyle decision in order to maintain your physical and emotional health. It is an imperative necessity for your healing...so is a period of solitude to 'hear' yourself think clearly so you can neutralize the cognitive dissonance that their emotional manipulations created.I try to understand ALL perspectives...MINE had to take
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The four types of coping mechanisms we use to deal with traumatic experiences are fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.By definition...Fawning, or people-pleasing response is a coping mechanism individuals develop to avoid conflict, pacify their abusers, and create a sense of safety.You will hear people pleasers often say things like...I cannot say no...I like being nice...This is just me...This is who
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By definition...Loyalty is a strong feeling of support or allegiance.If people you know or barely know gossip around you about others...be very mindful that they are most likely capable of gossiping about you with others.Be aware and beware of the type of person who starts the conversation with...I'm not into gossiping or drama...but...here you go...verbal vomitš£š£š£Obviously fully invested in spreading
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When people rush and push their sexual energy towards you...before getting to know you...they are just trying to fill a void or a need or an urge in themselves. An FYI...emotional abusers will push their sexual agenda very quickly onto you because they are aware sex is a bonding and hooking agent...for YOU...not them...before they start fucking literally and figuratively
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Apologizing to someone is admitting to fault.Firstā¦taking responsibility for your actions is required. That takes a lot of courage and a person of integrity to apologize...correctly. Not many can do itā¦let alone do it meaningfully.So is Forgiveness a necessary part of healing?Forgiving oneās own self is necessary for peace of mind and your own healingā¦but forgiving the other is not
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People with a traumatized inner child often grow up into emotional abusers...We assume a full grown adult is going to behave as one...THAT'S absolutely not true!They are only masquerading in life as adults...and that's frightening because you can't tell at first.They create burdens for others...and then run away like a scared child...because thats what they actually are...emotionally juvenile. Emotional abusers
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There were many things that I felt Heartbroken about in my lifetime...At 16 my first little boyfriend had to leave the country due to some indiscretions on his part...and then he died in a fatal motorcycle accident...I did not get any details or closure...just unprocessed grief.Leaving ones 'home' is also heartbreaking...Wars, divorce, what-not...Still...more...unprocessed grief...I have moved through different continents a
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This is what we came here for...Most of us as are in our downward slide into home base...TOUCH DOWN...GOAL...BASKETļļļā¾ļøļā½ļøļ...whatever game you are playing...same ending!No more saving face, clothes, jewelry, virginity, shoes, bags, money, balls, cheesecake, love, attention...for a better event or a better day or when we retire in 10 years...TODAY is the MAIN EVENT!EVERYDAY is the MAIN EVENT!
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