YOU…..
Irony for a person who has survived narcissistically abusive entanglements…
The survivor goes through life looking for people who DO NOT exhibit ANY of the Narcissist’s qualities…and the Narcissist goes through life looking for someone exactly like YOU.
Don’t be flattered…there have been many you’s.
The reason…
They are looking for someone to mirror back to them all your wonderful qualities they lack.
They are looking for someone to make them feel better about themselves…and that someone was YOU.
We resonate with people who are just like us…
Initially they mirror you back to you.
They mimic and adopt your mannerisms and emotions.
You think you’ve found your souls reflection.
Then that reflection disappears.
By the time we are in your 60s there have been many ‘you’s.
They are ALWAYS looking for the next YOU.
That is why they recycle exes over and over to repeat the cycle of abuse with someone familiar…much like insanity.
I did 8 cycles in 2.5 years…so not judging.
He tried #9 to now be a ‘savior’ after he struggled to get me fired from my job and arrested…shameless!
Blocking and abandoning such a person is very necessary part of healing.
That is also why they prey on a particular type of person.
If you are recently broken-up, divorced, history of abuse, widowed etc…here comes your predator!
You have the scent of a particular yummy vulnerability to a predator.
Your vulnerabilities are a way for them to enter and abuse you…if you are in ‘sad’ low energy place…they enter…they will hold your hand until they get a chance to break it.
They target a very similar personality type over and over…YOU!
Don’t be flattered…it’s completely egocentric and self serving and one-sided.
It’s called a mental illness for a reason.
