Living My New Reality
Red Flags...by definition.Something your partner does that indicates a lack of respect, integrity or interest towards the relationship.It's a sign that a person will turn out to be (or is) a problematic partner.I didn't know about red flags...Till at 51 I was 'happily sitting' with a person who wore a neon green hat full of red flags and I still
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EVERYONE has a dark side and a light side...we learn to balance them by our morals, principles, values, integrity etc. Emotionally unbalanced, deviant or toxic people also have light sides but don't have these checks and balances to fall back on...there is an imbalance...they easily get drawn to operate from their dark side...their boundaries are blurry.Initially everyone is drawn to
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** A self-deprecating person knows their own weaknesses and shortcomings and isn't afraid to point them out, often in a humorous way. When being self-deprecating goes too far, it can become self-loathing and self-sabotaging, which are less amusing forms of putting yourself down **Self deprecation...it's an unchecked issue that most people who do it...don't even realize they are doing it.Complain much?Not only are you being unkind to yourself...you are also draining everyone
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We all go through karmic lessons in our life trying to fix the hurt and trauma we have experienced in this lifetime or the past.These are presented in relationships through repetitious patterns and scenarios.These relationships aren’t meant to last but they are learning experiences for those who do go through them.Their main objective in our lives is for us to:*Learn
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Life is full of signs...Family, friends, aquaintances, colleagues ALL show us signs and vice versa that we need to pay attention to.These are some of the important ones. 1. Unease...you body will feel uneasy around certain people...when you don't pay attention to your intuition you will have physical reactions...like a sense of anxiety around them. 2. Dissatisfaction and the lack
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There is a difference between putting in effort into a relationship verses struggling in a relationship.Toxic people make you struggle...they keep the situationshit in first gear and reverse...by toggling in and out of the relationship and blaming you for their indecisiveness.The only effort they put in is to push that thing into reverse.Struggling to keep your head above water in
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Anyone can get Emotionally abused.People don't get emotionally abused because they are not strong...they get emotionally abused because the abusive person is weak and can only accomplish things through manipulation.It's hard to stop giving people the benefit of the doubt when that is what you are used to doing...it's hard to not trust people...when that is what you are used
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Things to keep in mind while choosing a 'love' interest Candidate.If you get treated REALLY well for @ 3ish months...REMEMBER you are just meeting the persons representative.Once you are past that you get to meet the REAL Candidate.That's called Love Bombing.It's a common campaigning technique.NO ONE can hold up their fake façade for long.***Don't ignore or deny that drop of
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Whatever is happening to you is also happening to others in our world...Imagine that!!Just that awareness is impactful...we are not alone.Just that awareness is healing...we are not alone.We are ALL connected by our experiences.My experiences are not unique to 'just me'.We all go through similar cycles.If I'm falling in love...the same is happening to others...if I'm getting abused right now...well
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The word scapegoating is defined as, “the act or practice of assigning blame or failure to another so as to deflect attention or responsibility away from oneself.” Aka...Denial.In toxic relationships scapegoating is a way to live in denial of one's own faults or failures.Passing the buck to avoid responsibility or accountability for one's own actions.A scapegoat is picked by personality
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