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Heartbroken…Hero…

There were many things that I felt Heartbroken about in my lifetime...At 16 my first little boyfriend had to leave the country due to some indiscretions on his part...and then he died in a fatal motorcycle accident...I did not get any details or closure...just unprocessed grief.Leaving ones 'home' is also heartbreaking...Wars, divorce, what-not...Still...more...unprocessed grief...I have moved through different continents a

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What a Truth!!!!

This is what we came here for...Most of us as are in our downward slide into home base...TOUCH DOWN...GOAL...BASKET⚾️⚽️...whatever game you are playing...same ending!No more saving face, clothes, jewelry, virginity, shoes, bags, money, balls, cheesecake, love, attention...for a better event or a better day or when we retire in 10 years...TODAY is the MAIN EVENT!EVERYDAY is the MAIN EVENT!

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Everything is Transient….

The Moon gets its light from the Sun. In the same way that the Sun illuminates Earth, the Moon reflects the Sun's light, making it appear bright in our sky.The Moon is seen only because of the Sun...it's brightness is just an illusion because of the light offered from the Sun.It takes 8 minutes for light to get from the

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Peace of Mind….

The reason...the lesson...the truth...The pain happened...There's no denying that... There's no making that pain disappear...without effortThe road to healing has been a painfully tough journey...always on-going...The only way to get around the pain is finding and appreciating the value in the lesson it provided.EVERYTHING happens for a reason.People are shuffled around in and out of your life for a reason...always

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THIS is not who you are….

We learn through our life experiences...we collect them along the way...like any other young'un I too was a blank slate...I met my first husband at 18...he was 30.He was older and hence 'stable'...I value stability...so...I married him.I later found out stability was not one of his qualities.My next experience was Robbie...RIPRobbie was a man who valued the integrity within a

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What a feeling….

'Family' is not always blood...it's a feeling...We are taught otherwise...People who have experienced family differently...will treat you differently...good or bad.You can ONLY do or feel what you have already experienced...or sometimes what you desire to feel.Some strangers treat strangers really well because they know...They have experienced family in a good way...Not a common experience...We imagine and assume what and how 

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Without Closure….

You have to be a really strong human to heal or deal without closure...from ANYONE or ANYTHING...Healing with closure is a great experience...it's helpful.Always remember...You get closure ONLY from emotionally heathy people...You don't get closure from toxic people...THAT in itself is a BIG red flag...The disrespect and the blatant disregard for your feelings as a human should be closure enough...THAT

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Ruining Holidays…Business as usual….

With the holidays around the corner...we ALL hope for a wonderful time of fun food family friends and festivities. We are here to make memorable memories...right?Not when you are dealing with a Narcissist...Narcissistic people ruin holidays or any special events to make it memorable...It's their favorite demoralizing gift to you for any event.Unfortunately...It's ALWAYS in hindsight when you realize what

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It’s cuffing season….

By definition...The cold autumn and winter months seen as a period when it is especially desirable to enter into a romantic relationship."It’s cold and it’s cuffing season, I should be snuggled warm in bed with the love of my life"It's the season for exes and all kinds of new rif raf to appear to see if you they can still

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Dodging a Bullet….

If someone tells you 'you deserve better' or 'I'm not good enough for you'.They are aware of their own value...what they are bringing to the table and they are telling you that they cannot deliver what you want or need.If they already don't feel good enough within themselves...they are going to drag you down to their level...Take their own self-evaluation

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